Is beauty really skin deep??????..

First of all lets get into the definition of beauty being skin deep straight away - according to me..: it means that beauty is not all abt looking good but how the person is, the nature, the thoughts, the way the person carries his/er personality, behaviour!!..but... How much do we really search for such beauty??.. Not initially… dare anybody says NO!!.

If beauty is really skin deep then why r thr so many ads which stress on fairness, wrinkle free, spotless etc etc cosmetic products...... WHY??. Why matrimonial ads always mention - "wanted good looking , fair, slim brides or handsome grooms"??? Why hospitality sector, aviaton industries look for only well chiseled features, perfect 10 bodies.... (no exaggeration at all.).... Would like to blame the beauty pageants the most in this regard which on one hand says beauty is skin deep but on the othr hand have never been able to endorse the same.

Isn't it the age old legacy of biased perception that has been passed on to generations after generations... Why such hypocrisy in the society which virtually says simplicity/natural beauty/a person's thoughts matters more than anything whereas in reality they themselves knock at the door of cosmetic surgeons!!.. I dnt mind calling it racism!!

Am waiting for the day when the word ugly, fat, complexion will be removed from the dictionary If they are out, thr wont be any discriminatory adverstisements, people will be accepted the way they are and world would be a better place to live in..... wat a dream!!! will my waiting be worth enough?? honestly NO..... truth hurts..... it surely does..... nevermind.. but I blv in one thing for sure…..Beauty Lies in the eyes of beholder.. but again...the volatile question arises.. abt.. 'how genuine the beholder is'???....think abt it!!

A party to remember....!!!

Here's a page from my memory!

Dated: 14th feb 2004,pune
Venue: my flat (Bhosari colony)
Occasion Valentine's Day!!
Time: Evening
… It was the St's day when me n my spinster frnds got together and thought of having our own party at my flat….so what if we were single… boys r not always needed…!! So here's the run to D-day and the events that happened……………. hihihi ….

13th Feb: Fergusson College… I as per my regular routine met my very close frnd Nibedita at zoology department (now a lecturer… wonder how guys manage to keep their eyes off her! Pity on their gfs… hihihi)… met Sandeep my best frnd n bro, n his bcs depart gang… spoke to them for a while – took the shortcut… came to the p.g of Roopsa (remember the resemblance incident?? Yes… the very same girl)… So there me, Roopsa and one more frnd Sukanya (lil abt her: she was this highly sophisticated, good looking hot 'babe'- the only thing I cud see whenever I used to enter her room was all kind of face packs, branded shampoos, conditioners, cosmestic, herbal products, never seen clothes – in short the ultra trendy uptown girl)… so where was I…..yeah… ok… then we carefully listed the things that
will be required for the party to rock literally... here it is

1) rum – old monk-1 bottle
2)beer - kingfisher strong-3 bottles
3)vodka - white mischief-2 bottles
4)lemons -half a dozen
5) cigarettes – gold fake regular – 2 packs
6) chips n other salty n spicy eatables.

[we missed out one very important point here – who will buy what , where n when??]

Thereafter we went to our humdrum Triveni… had hot samosa's like everyday… sat for hrs, checked out few good guys here n there ;) … then headed towards our nests…

Here at our flat we were 3 – my didi (Anwesha), minki di (student of symbiosis college) n me... they were quite excited abt the whole affair.....

14th Feb: Afternoon

we all attended our respective classes (had to fulfill 75% attendance requirement)... fortunately I wasn't having my geology practs but Sukanya n Roopsa had their chemistry practs… so had to wait for them... meanwhile met all my frnds frm arts ,chem.,bcs,botany n electronics departments… not in any specific order… ( me being a social animal, you c!! ….) According to our plan our meeting point was Sagar Arcade at sharp 6 p.m… for the first time the plan worked out n we were together – thanks to Sukanya's lil brain which worked a bit we got the record player... few assorted n otherwise cassettes… then we immediately took an auto. On our way we decided to look out for liquor shops. Luckily it wasn't a dry day... Suddenly our eyes set on a shop near Kothrud… asked the autowala bhaiya to stop infront of the shop for 5 mins... (that means 5 mins=15 mins minimum,25 min max)… for a moment he was shocked to see 3 girls walking towards the shop… so was the shopkeeper who saw us coming… we stood there for a minute, totally blank staring at each other… dunno wot to say??? We waited for the guys and uncles standing there at the counter to go after all we being the Gen-X girls cudn't afford to make fool of ourselves… hehehehe!!... 5 min… 7 min…10 mins… gone!! Without wasting one more min… gathered loads of courage n asked for the necessary "things"... paid hurriedly… not to worry we girls are pretty good with the money…yup!!... Came out saw a paanwala right next to the shop (symbiotic relationship u see) this time without a flinch bought the cig packs!!... ran into the auto and asked him to be the superman n make his auto fly… and he really did that…. Lol……


Finally we reached our destination. My di n minki di they had already arranged the whole set up….
Didn't take much time to set the ball rolling….

Di n Minki took beer the safest drink (in terms of alcohol content)…I think they knew wot was coming their way (great foresight our elders have)..
Roopsa n Sukanya thou not the regular ones but had the idea of mixing n serving the right way... personally I like beer so I started with that but my frnds took the vodka instead… after finishing of one bottle I was kinda tipsy (sadly my capacity is that low)… after 1 hr we switched to rum... made a peg for each one… we badly wanted to taste it (since we all were first timers)… gulped it down at one go…… hmmmm… our verdict… not bad at all! For the next round we thought of having it neat with cigs n eatables… just like the strong men do...
Cig: di dint smoke… Roopsa, Sukanya had very lil exp. Of it… Minki di a chain smoker... me an infant… nevertheless very courageously took the cig in between my lips lit it... NOW
the big question came up!! Wat to do with it??... I mean how do you smoke??? Thankfully had Minki di to my rescue… Somehow cudn't understand at all as to… how I shud take the smoke... all in??? just a part in?? How long shud I keep the puff in my mouth n then give out….puzzled!!!!! Had very * coughing* experience… Neway without further delay we took our glass of neat rum... eeeeee…. can never forget the burning sensation!...
It was the vodka time now… I did the preparation… more of vodka less of lemon (probably that was the first step towards axing my own feet)… was smoking along side… didn't pay much heed to the repeated warnings from everyone to take it slow…. I went on taking drinks as if they were water …

3 a.m… 2 empty packs of cigs,2 beer bottles,1 vodka bottle…into the dustbin..

Next round: Before that we decided to take a break n shake our legs a bit..only our legs??.. naah..infact our whole body was shaking... 8 on the Richter scale..(such were the movements)!!!

Turn of the dj I mean cocktail….here I was..(being science student experimentation was always in my blood)..took neat rum mixed it with vodka (by this time I was totally tipsy—my acts were justified) lit a cig..that was it!!..the last nail into my coffin……few mins later isha was running in n out of the bathroom ..puking..all over….blv me wasn't a good site... yuck!!! When the washbasin got choked…I was out in the balcony… after throwing up whatever i had… the moment I took my head up…I saw the building in front of me which was in one piece n well grounded all these yrs became two n started swinging like a pendulum… my sister who was with me... took me inside the room n threw me on my bed… did she scold me…don't remember actually…while I was in my bed I kept staring at the ceiling which I thought wud fall upon me at any moment…my bed felt like a moving train..slowly the voices started fading... I was drifting away to my own world where I felt totally weightless ..floating in the space... my mind was without any thoughts... By Jove!! pleasurable experience!!! I kept tossing n turning the whole night… Night?? technically not..

15th feb..
1:30 p.m… opened my eyes... saw frnds n roomies all fresh gossiping away to glory… For a second I thought the night did not end… but usually nights are dark…isnt it..aah!! Took a few mins to come into my senses.. oh yes!! had terrible… terrible hangover…coz of our adventurous night Sukanya missed her CAT exams that day.. as if she cared….Roopsa, di n Minki di were all fine… after checking out everything I finally raised my head up only to see the ceiling which was at its place…. much to my relief!!never thought ceilings were so impt.....!

My last party with them..

Miss u Guys!!!!

possessiveness VS obsession..

Possessiveness .adj. demanding someone's totalattention and love.
Obsession . n. the state of being obsessed.
An idea or thought thatdominates someone's
thoughts.
Lol!! Dnt u worry me not going to give u any kind of vocab. lessons here.
Its just that haven't these words been felt now and then. In any kind of relationship whether it's a month old or a decade an individual is possessive about his/er partner but we often forget that thr is a very thin line of demarcation between the two…when one oversteps the line of possessiveness it tends to become obsession.. but also at times we do overlook obsession and term it as mere possessiveness.The root cause of it is insecurity within oneself which inturn is the result of expectations or may be over-expectations.How many of us has the nature of sharing ,sharing of frnds,sharing of anything??yeah you cannot forget the word pretence… Can insecurity, which is supposedly the only cause, be replaced by jealousy...... perhaps yes! As a child we always liked to be the centre of attraction,attention, being important,owning every possible thing we liked and this habit grew along with us and reached new heights…Aren't the two words applicable for materialistic things as well......... but still human emotions is beyond comparison…I knw it's a long debatable topic..difft ppl will obviously keep difft opinions..I kept mine!!!!

Resemblance....

How often do we actually hear people say that you looklike this actor/actress,this star that star,someone'scousin,friend of my friend goes on and on....am quite sure a number of times.Come to think of it is the perception of the individuals who in turn dnt think alike.

p.s- mind you here am not talking about bloodrelations!

The scientists mite not agree with me they would come up with DNA structure theory in a way they can be true also.Lets leave out scientists and their mind boggling researches ..ufff!!!

A great percentage of people think I have got a familiar face which means I resemble 1 out of 20 ppl dnt wanna count further.wat makes me so familiar till date never got an answer.but this familiarity mite lead to embarrassment at times.let me tell u one of my such experiences….Way back in the year of 2002-2003 when I was in pune..... studying in Fergusson my dear friend roopsa's elder cousin bro with his friend came dwn frm Kolkata.so we without giving a second thought decided on f.c road's Ccd.anyway as usual just like everyone does we started talking over coffee. Adjacent to us thr was this couple sitting while I was watching a song on channel V. Suddenly the guy came lil near to me and said:

Mr.X : excuse me!

Me(lil surprised) :yes.

Mr.X (with a smile) : I want to tell u something ..
Me(with suspicion) :go ahead..
Mr.X(with full conviction) : you knw u look likeAntara mali infact much cuter than her !
Me(thinking it to be a prank) :I think you must be joking.

The girl joining him :no actually its true! We have been observing u for a longtime and we decided whoeverwould convey this to her would treat the other to a cup of coffee.

Me(already reached the heights of embarrassment) : thank u!

Yes I did notice few more ppl staring at me..... oh gosh!!!..n yes u guessed it rite I dint take much time to run frm that place …

My hatred for Antara mali grew more stronger.

Roopsa, her bro n his frnd teased me throughout the evening and me kept on repeating "a-n-t-a-r-a mali why sheeeee????"disgusting!!

Since that day whenever she comes on t.v I prefer not to watch her!!

My resemblance list till date: ayesha jhulka,shwetakeswani(des main nikla hoga chand),prachi desai(baniwalia:kasam se),diya mirza,pooja batra,renuka sahane,Gabriela sabatini,michelle Pfeiffer…..

What do u think…..???

Excuse me!!!!

Well… hmmmn..here I am writing my first blog.. It couldn't have been possible without the constant instigation of one of my very close friend who himself is a blogger and has this misconception that I can write too. Hope I prove him right..... hehhhehhehe..Now that I have taken this audacious step the main question is what should I write...... I mean what kinda topic should I choose n type down.. My friend thinks I keep very strong view points about any issue. Does that mean I should write abt social issues, political issues, or should go the philo way..aaaa...or should I write about my fav. sport Cricket - about the ongoing sad saga of BCCI and the players, the political tussle, the ego etc etc..if I do so my female friends will definitely be after me and their first reaction wud be "isha not again" thou my male friends would simply love it.. but can't make girls angry....... am quite considerate.... ahem ahem!…or should I write an article about health n beauty.. the probs,their cure, homemade remedies, how to be stylist, how to groom blah blah...mind u haven't done any course so better I don't take the risk , moreover can't take the shouts of all my male friends which usually goes like this whenever I start with such topic "isha u r better off as a tomboyyyyy"… alrite alrite..here lies my problem likhoon bhi toh kya likhoon??
Let me put on my thinking cap one more time hope it wrks, shud I write abt all my blogger friends n appreciate their commendable work..naaah..its difficult to do the balancing act u see.. how about writing about myself u know introduction types but do I know myself very well? Yes I have done swot analysis of myself(strength, weakness, opportunity , threat). Can u beat that? Believe me its easy to do swot analysis of various companies but its an uphill task for oneself …I might not do justice to myself..or might get boring as I can go on n an obvious proclivity..hhihihhihihi..should I try writing about spiritual stuff.. about me being atheist n why…or since I have a defense background I can write about various places where my dad was posted, the experiences I had, abt different ppl..i can nai…but that will take ages as I am such a sluggard….enuff enuff my grey matters worked overtime today they need good rest n sleep so u know will continue later on!!!!!
Till then stay tuned............... Isha might get active anytime!!